Happiness

This is the most quiet summer I every had. Having the privilege to work outside-from-office, I started a fresh lifestyle which emphasizes on fitness, health, caring and career. Jogging three times a week, eat home cook food most of the time, have sweet time with people I love, do something for others… I also want to be goal-orientated at work because I really look forward for launching of the e-Learning website for Mandarin learners.

Enjoying a cup of green tea latte and an apple strudel with vanilla sauce, while browsing through some news and articles was a great way to start off my day. I went to the library during my ‘lunch break’ to check out some self-enrichment books. I picked up a book on happiness, it was about Ian’s life in New York City and how he realized that he could be happier. You know, life in city is hectic if you’re trying to live a quality life. Reading was such an enjoyable moment that I want to put it into my schedule, even when school recommence.

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Then I came across Thich Nhat Hanh’s film -Peace in Every Step, which also teaches me about happiness. In the film, TNH tells story about Vietnam wars which happened 10 yrs ago: how Vietnamese and Americans suffer from it, including himself. TNH recovered from the bad emotions and did not keep hatred within himself despite of losing his family. As we know, hatred is a poison to happiness. “If you have hatred, you must have not been thinking deep enough,” said TNH. The American soldiers back then thought that they want victory so that the war could end soon to reduce sufferings. So the soldiers did a lot of killing. Some soldiers were living under a black shadow after the war because they realize that they doesn’t hate the victims in person while they kill, but has caused non-ending sufferings to the Vietnamese. TNH shared that there was once, he was in a temple performing meditation with the other Vietnamese. They hear sound of flying bombs and they decided to walk out to help the casualties. TNH’s now calling for world peace, war shouldn’t happen.

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“Meditation is not just focusing on oneself, you can’t be alone, just inter-being alone. You smile when you see the people you love smiles. We need family and friends in our life.” TNH shared his thought. TNH again teaches me philosophy of life. True happiness is initiated from meditation: to practice thinking deeply in every step you take. When there’s no hatred, no attachment and no ignorance, happiness is created internally.

Gastroenteritis

I woke up in pain in the middle of the night just before the first day of exam. This is such an important semester for me as my exam grades will affect my chances of taking up internship positions in Hong Kong. I was super upset while suffering from stomachache that night. Having diagnosed with gastroenteritis (a.k.a viral infection in intestine, not gastric), I was so worried that I might not be able to sit for the paper to be held in few hours time. I sent a letter of apology to my lecturer to keep him noted. That’s not the main concern afterwards. Nausea started and stomachache didn’t last. Having no appetite is the worst condition ever as I knew that my body wouldn’t recover without food.

When I was sleepless on bed, random thoughts flew into my mind. Which meal made me sick? Why am I sick during exam period? I really need someone by my side to bring me food and show some caring… Will anyone be around when my friends and I are getting busier in life? What if my parents are around now? Will I be able to overcome the physical challenges as I grow older? Will I be brave enough to fight cancer if I have to undergo lots of pain? Lots of questions in my mind. I have even come across question like should I commit suicide when I became a burden to the people I love one day. Random thoughts occupied my mind and I find them worth thinking. This moment reminds you of what you really need in life more than what you want.

I was so upset and pain that I just want to lye on the bed for 24 hours so that I will be able to recover ASAP to get back to work. But I realized that I that will not recover without intake of food after 6 hours of sleep. Food wasn’t as delicious as they were supposed to. Even water makes me feel like vomiting. I think my partner seems to have successfully convinced or forced me to have something. Thank you darling for the sweet soup (hot sugar water & longan & geiji, but has successfully prevented period pain for lots of times), and you’re one of the sweetest people I meet in life. You’ve significantly helped me in recovering, aside from the hours of sleep and medicines prescribed that I had taken.

Some tips on food consumption after appetite gets better after any disease that causes diarrhea or vomit. Take food that are easily digestible such as bananas, vegetables and chicken. Take sweet soup if you don’t feel like swallowing anything. Preventing dehydration during the first 24 hours after diarrhea or vomit starts is essential. Avoid any milk products upon recovery.

Love Learning

这阵子教补习以及和弟弟长时间的相处,发现00后被西方文化感染的程度极高。因为他们学习方式上的转变,让我觉得他们有很多的小聪明和学习速度较高。他们学习的主要来源不再是阅读,资讯来源主要是玩乐、游戏机、媒体、社交网站和学校里比较多元化的教学方式。深深感觉自己若是停止学习,一不小心就会被时代给淘汰,和其他人就再也没有共同的语言了。

念了三年的大学,知道学分这种事情重要,但不是大学的唯一。领悟到了人只要有目标才会精彩。我用了两年的时间改变了自己的工作态度和提升自己的思考能力以及与人相处的技能,更克服了我对于难题和对于自己三分钟热度的恐惧。看着同龄朋友大学毕业典礼的照片,不竟开始幻想自己在毕业之际泪流满面的画面 xD

在这所大学里,一个星期花在上课的时间其实并不是很多。但是由于周围的优秀生非常多,老师不得不把功课的水平调高,要完成一份功课需要付出的时间和专注力是极多的。而中学习惯临时抱佛脚的我们也早已被迫改掉这个习惯。纵使下个星期有三个期中考要应付,这个星期也有两份功课得交,我确确实实陶醉于现在轻松学习的状态。

Doggy in the House

以前认为每天省着用钱,就可以减少爸妈的负担。在国外一次意外花多了钱,为了筹回这些钱所以开始教补习赚点零用钱。渐渐的发现自己有了开销能力,开始学会为自己的生活做选择。零用钱多少成放在品尝美食,多少在储蓄,多少在奢侈品,多少贡献给慈善机构。

今天与亲戚聊聊天,狗狗在身边绕来绕去,我们的话题也就只有越来越多。这才发现纵使养一只狗狗,需要确保自己有时间陪伴它、有钱给它看医生、打针、确保它营养充足,但它给家里人带来的气氛是非一般的。

顿时也发现虽然节俭是美德,但挣钱也是为了生活开心一点,该消费的就不要太计较。花钱要有规划。培养兴趣,譬如品尝茶和咖啡,旅行做义工之类的,一样需要花少少的钱,但生活的乐趣也可就多了。一个人、两个人、三个人的时候…… 也不再害怕dead air,倒是有更多的东西切磋与探讨。

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We Live Together

一个人坐在巴士上兜兜风,你会发现聆听自己心里的声音一点都不难。每个人都需要有独立思考的时候,让我们去反思、反应与计划未来。安静思考的空间对于我而言更为重要,它不仅仅促进我写电脑编程的productivity,也让我放慢脚步去看着自己在这繁忙的城市里想要扮演哪个角色。

然而我相信人是群体动物。学会在独立与依赖之间找平衡点是人生一大学问。纵使一个人处理事情可以不用跟其他人交代太多、不需要persuade对方认同你的观点,但你我都会发现“三个臭皮匠赛过诸葛亮”(当然三个诸葛亮还是表现得比较卓越的)。如果你是个学生,难免会联想到交作业时通过讨论以后提交上的作业拿满分的几率高很多。我要表达的并不仅仅是这些,而是我发现纵使是严重喜欢独处的人,身边也想要身边有几个好友给他/她的生活增添点忧伤、烦恼、欢笑与感动。

与朋友或伴侣建立好感情,我们会因为依赖而用心聆听与放纵地向对方诉说,也因为独立我们才有能力给予对方正能量、劝告与idea。曾经有人说,感情最好的情侣,最爱的不是他们的伴侣,而是自己。长大以后我才懂得,要带欢乐给身边的人,包括家人、好友,需要的不仅仅是时间与陪伴,还有幽默感、亲近感、履行承诺的责任感、开朗的情怀、金钱支付生活所需、很多的故事……许多……许多……

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贵州之旅

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美丽的黄果树瀑布 是徐霞客马山涉水的痕迹
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西江千户苗寨 观赏苗族表演 吃吃苗族饭菜 看看苗族房屋建设
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Exam Fighter

还有三天就要在考场上应战的我心情平淡
可能是筹备考试的时间比以往多了,也可能是自己已经渐渐学会了放松过生活
空闲的时间拿来看电影、玩乐器、跟人联络感情、上网阅读、出门走走
不再是朋友曾经称我做的 “大忙人”

因为不再过于忙碌,我再次成为了时间的主人
惊奇地发现,不再只是见步行事的我,人生渐渐有了方向
更加清楚知道自己每一天想要做些什么事、想过什么样的生活
也在在 “计划未来” 和 “珍惜当下” 之间找到了个平衡点

同一个平衡点在人生不同的阶段可能有所改变
但目前放慢脚步生活的瞬间,我欣赏起人间许多美好的事物,比以前更会笑了
偶尔喜欢想想现在的自己跟以往的自己哪里不同了, 是否更加喜欢现在的自己了
让自己放松心情时,比以前主动问候身边的人、聆听大家的故事了

感觉上
这样生活就对了

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Reading Week Year 2

昨夜睡不着觉,于是坐起身来练一练书法。这才发现自己有好几个月没有挥过毛笔了。随手往手提电脑伸,尝试搜寻有关书法的参考文章,找到了一篇关于写书法学做人和求学心态的文章,边抄、边练、边体会。自己目前体会到的有:每一个笔画的背后,都需要经过学习新知识和加以练习的阶段;字要写得美,笔不可以握得太紧,心态要正确、要专注;用的毛笔和纸张材料也对字体有影响。好难得给自己两个小时完全肃静,这一些体会都让我去检讨和纠正生活中的一些习惯和作息。

早晨醒来,没有什么特别的动力去面对新的一天,但大概知道了今天的行程。首先是洗个热水澡、吹吹头发出门去。在阅读周的最后几天,我还挺佩服自己依然还是背着个大书包去学校找教授去。计算机科学这块……还真搞到我伤心难过了好几个昼夜啊。但也是因为它考到我那么多次,让我了解自己的短处,还有就是相信凡事需要下手去做才能了解自己对某件事物的理解有多深。

下午跟姐妹一同来到了这间充满回忆的电脑室。还记得上学期末应考时我们一同在那里吃巧克力提神去拼命的日子。首先是因为看到一份非常适合自己的工作,提交了一封申请信。之后凑好学习材料,拿起笔,一口气念了四个小时的书。中间似乎想起了农历新年陪我一起念课本追上课程进度的爸妈,顿时觉得自己是世上最幸福的孩子。有周董、嚴爵、白安、家家的歌声陪伴,学习变成件很愉快的事。傍晚约了位三个月没见的长辈吃饭,于是浩浩荡荡的出发走到熟食中心去。

长辈拥有丰富的工作经验,最后决定利用自己的知识为自己挣钱,是电脑界里的企业家之一。一边吃非常美味的蒸鱼头的同时,我问了他好多好多关于他作为顾问需要面对的难题,顺便了解电脑领域当中与人有较多触碰的工作机会。喝着三瓶青岛啤酒,我也不竟提起自己在曲阜喝烈酒呕吐的事件,然后牵扯到去一些生活上遇到的难题。讨论的气氛是非常的愉快即有意义,书法、教育、人生观他样样都能聊。他也分享了自己认为大专生必修的三大专业,希望我专注于自己的长处去发展,不需要太过局限于学分的高低。

两边脸颊都红彤彤的我回到了校园,只是稍微做了点作业。倒是吃了姐妹不少软糖(我会还的>,<)。我想大学生的生活真的非常棒,我是该勤力前去学习和了解自己未来想要的生活模式的,不辜负父母长辈和自己的努力。我要做个快乐的人 🙂

Service trip at Qufu, China

The Unexpected- Worms to be eaten

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Met a girl who can spend one hour doing photography for the same people with the same background

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Kindergarten kids love drawing and they don’t know that they shouldn’t use a marker pen on a black board. Ishh!

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I chose to memorize 30 Chinese Ancient Proverbs in order to get a free ticket worth RMB300. And I got a free ticket by memorizing just 19 of them because I’m a Malaysian XD (and the judge is obviously kind enough)

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I really don’t know where to look for a proper toilet besides the hotel.

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Friends of similar interest

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The Smart Secondary School Kids -thirsty for knowledge and hard working.

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3 Years Old Kindergarten Kids -good at bullying adults (look at what this poor guy behind me has to deal with in the first picture). Exhausted after spending 2 hours with them. They just go crazy.

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Knowing the Culture of One More Place on Planet

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Good food

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Experience Winter

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Work for Yourself

这是我这个学期的第二篇部落格,可见的生活是多么的忙碌。接近这学期的尾声,才发觉到真正的挑战才刚刚开始,才领悟到开学时早应该培养一些现在刚开始培养的好习惯。在忙碌筹备山东义教计划以及港大马来西亚之夜的时候,脑海里偶尔飘过一些中学时期的画面。回想曾经为了证明自己而连夜做企划案、因为他人的评价而和战友谈几个小时的电话、为了稳固在好友心目中的一个地位而每天保持联系、一班好朋友纵使性格很不同也依然在一块儿练习吵架再复合。哈哈。结论是,做人过于追求于现实,反而会忘记自己追求现实的目的-找到永远的快乐,在丧气时依然还有人为你撑腰、打气。中学毕业整整三年后的今天,我再次鼓起勇气去接受一些需要负大责任的任务,我不会重蹈覆辙。因为不了解自己、不了解同伴、做事虎头蛇尾,我花了三年的时间才有信心和勇气再次学做小组领导人。它,就像一直还在我血管里。在这三年找回自己的旅程中,很庆幸自己也练习了辅助他人。总的来说,看回去,有很多遗憾,可更重要的是找到问题的根本,对症下药。

有了姐妹互相依靠,生活也安定下来的。但仍然希望自己还可以很随谈,而且好友很多时候都有各自的活动参与,所以我没有停止结交新朋友。在和一个朋友聊天的夜晚,她教会我说,每个人都有自己的路要走,‘你’的出现并不会在一瞬间彻底改变他人的生活。虽然我对这句话有所保留,但我很珍惜这朋友诚心分享她的生活观点,让我对人生存方式多了一层的了解,并且将自己的短期目标放大来看。这学期的中间,我陪伴过一个朋友走过她大学难挨的两个星期,事后发现我的能力范围内没有太多东西可以替她解决拿一些些问题,顿时领悟到自己其实有多么的渺小。总是我眼中的解决方案多么有效,要是对方没有积极和拥有足够的资源去克服困难,我所谓的帮助是有多么的微不足道。感激另一个朋友让我慢慢学习今日事、今日毕,总是引导我看到事情的大画面。协助我恢复单身以后,慢慢地找回遗失了的自己去追求梦想。在这里也要感谢我的一个知己,在我遇到困难后都会给于我有建设性的建议,减少我的迷茫,也是他让我让宽对人情世故的接纳性。我也很庆幸自己遇到的第一个室友不仅仅教会了我打扮、做了个好榜样让我学习、影响我多花心思打点生活,还促使我多和老友联系。

来了香港一年我对于追求现实的人少了那么一点点的抗拒,只要对方不是在刻意重伤其他人。虽然不是所有较发达的国家都有这样的文化,可我晓得世界不可以少了这一些对人生充满憧憬、对生活有特别高的要求的人。但我晓得自己心里的价值观终究不会改变。除了接受一些文化以外,我也看到的批判性思维的和表达清晰的重要性,也下定决心在毕业前要掌握好这两个技能,才能对牵涉到他人有重大影响的决定负责。对于港大的教师教导方式我依然有很多意见,可我知道人生当中有很多事是埋怨没有用的,要靠自己暂时把它置在一旁,继续往前走。借机会分享我近期的读书座右铭:不抱怨其他人的生活条件比较好、学习基础比较强,只要问自己为了这个付出了多少。